TOP 5 REGRETS OF THE DYING

Hey friends

This one story completely changed my life.So by 2009,a palliative care nurse called Bronnie ware had been looking after dying patients for eight years in a care home. While working there,she asked these patients who knew that they were in their final months of their lives,whether they had any regrets. And what they would do differently if they could go back in time. She then summarized the most common regrets in a blog post called,"the top five regrets of the dying". And that is what I'm going to share with you this week.

1️⃣ I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself,not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it,it's easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made or not made.

2️⃣ I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way,it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life,you become happier and more open to new opportunities,ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3️⃣ I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result,they settled for a mediocre existence and never become who they were truly capable of becoming. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way,you win.

4️⃣ I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships.

5️⃣ I wish I had let myself be happier

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. Fear of change had them pretending to others and to themselves, that they were content. When you are on your deathbed,what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying.

So after I read about this a few months ago,I put a reminder at the top of my do list everyday,with these five regrets. Because I didn't want to get to the end of my life, thinking any of these things. And since then,I've actively made changes to my life to try and avoid having these regrets. Like in particular, trying not to work so hard and actually to stay more in touch with my friends.

Do you think you're gonna have any of these regrets? I would love to read your thoughts and what you're gonna do about it?

Have a great week 💚

CHISOMAT xoxo

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My favorite things of the week❤️

🎧Music - Roles reversed by Mimi Webb has seen me through this tough week

📚Book - I finally gathered the courage to read THE SILENT PATIENT and it's a freaking page turner💯. Highly recommend

📽️Movie - I watched a 2002 movie called SWEET NOVEMBER on Tuesday night and the ending is still on my mind

✍️ Quote of the Week

What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgements about these things.